Staying Employed is Key to Avoid Living with Parents


A 2014 Gallup survey indicated that 14 percent of all kids graduating from college are living with parents. They continue to rely on their parents for support, even if they find immediate employment post-graduation. With Fall commencement nearing, many parents may find their graduate back in their old bedroom.

Who suffers financially? Mostly the parents who are surprised to find their kids returning home after college graduation because they either can’t find a job or have a job with wages so low that they can’t afford to live on their own while paying down college debt. About 260,000 people who had a college or professional degree made at or below the federal minimum wage of $7.25 per hour last year, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Boomers had hopes to stash away more money in those last few crunch years before retirement but instead must use their extra income to support their children who by now should be financially independent.

Faced with this growing reality, a 2014 article in Fortune magazine discussed how parents are helping their kids network and find a job, and are struggling to determine how far is too far in assisting their graduate.

We don’t magically change once receiving a degree, but hopefully have developed technical competency and communication skills before entering the workforce.

However, the emphasis in college was likely on technical skills development, but many young adults arrive at their first job post degree with a lack of communication and social skills. Colleges include courses on presentation and writing skills in their curriculum, however, training usually stops there, and today’s new employees are left to navigate day-to-day coworker interactions by drawing upon their short brush with socially-accepted work behavior from an internship. Understanding the soft skills can be key to long-term employment.

What kind of support should we ask for from our anxious parents? Ask your parents to share some of their early career experiences but stand on your own by staying employed.

I recently released my first book “First Job: A Personal Career Guide for Graduates.” You will find my personal experiences told through four fictional characters that find themselves in tricky business situations and provides advice on how to prevent them or respond responsibly.

First Job can be read in less than two hours but can impact a new professional during the first two years of work, which is often the most critical for maintaining employment.

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Are you ready for training camp?


IMG_0819This week across the nation, NFL training camp commences. Players report to camp with excitement and are determined to make the cut.  Here in Cleveland, Ohio, all eyes are on Brian Hoyer and Johnny Manziel, as the veteran defends his quarterback positon over the former Heisman winner and party animal Johnny. College fall athletes are packing up their gear and heading to campus to begin four to six weeks of intense training. It is a time for recommittment. Training camp emphasizes working as a team, and builds excitement for the coaching staff, players and fans to work together toward a common goal, the Championship.

How can you recommit yourself to your profession or employer? I challenge you to recreate a training camp mentality over the next few weeks. Here are some suggestions:

Managers – hold a continuing education day for your team and discuss topics that will emphasize working together, such as collaboration tools or training on new company policies or industry regulations

Employers – Reflect on a specialty within your line of work that you would like to learn more about, and research books, training classes, or conferences that can expand your knowledge base.

Business Owners – rallying the team is most effective when the message comes from the top so carve some money out of the budget for an event that will bring everyone together. How do you want to lead your team in approaching a problem differently, and what can you do to create the pathway?

Football players and coaches will probably never read Business Beyond the Classroom (or at least not until their college or prefessional career is over). But when it comes to training camp, perhaps businesses can learn a lesson from their playbook.

Joyce Mihalik writes for HlpSum1, Inc., an online organization who encourages us to help others through volunteer work, mentoring and christian ministry.  For more information go to or to join the movement.

On Being Polite and Kind


If you are having a hard time accepting that being polite, professional and kind will result in a successful outcome, I suggest trying the following experiment. Place a call to a friend or plop yourself down in the chair next to your boyfriend or spouse. Greet them by saying Hello. Make a mental note of their response. Most likely they said “Hello” or “Hey”. Ask them a simple question such a “How are you?” Note the response. Most likely the response began with a direct but short answer to this question, followed by a reciprocating question such as “and how are you?” We receive our speech training as toddlers from our parents or guardians through mimicked rote responses. When addressed in a simple polite tone, you will get a simple polite answer.  This applies to negative comments as well.  When you ask a question or make a comment dripping in sarcasm, such as “Is your budget report going to show up late, again, this month? The response that this triggers is likely to be something defensive and equally dripping with disdain, such as “well if you didn’t keep changing the dates for when it is do, I might be able to plan better.”

Sometimes you just meet that person that no matter how hard you try – you can’t stand someone. Your personalities don’t mesh, A change in venue or a different moment in time will not make a relationship with this person any more palatable. If you are going to intentionally burn a bridge, make sure it passes the NIML (Never In My Life do I want to be friends with you) test.


How Headphones Killed the Office Buzz

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Headphones Killed the Office Buzz

As companies look for ways to promote teamwork and a collaborative work environment, the debate about an open-office environment has been on for over a decade.   In an effort to build a creative space where ideas are spontaneously combusting through the work day and profitability is soaring, companies are boosting their capital expense budget each year to allow for a fit-out of new office space.  General contractors are enjoying their new-found job security as they knock down walls and open up space to entice workers into a cozy state of cohabitation.  Surely, this has been seen as a panacea that will improve learning and idea sharing.

It seems like a great plan, but what corporate executives didn’t plan for is how today’s culture has been transformed by the smart phone era to the extent that the workforce would rather text you than speak to one another.  This new workforce is highly adaptable to their new conditions.  One can even download white noise apps. No problems here for these tech-savvy business warriors who have replaced bricks and mortars and achieved isolation with walls made of internet sites, video games and social apps.  The biggest dilemma may be with the next generation that will arrive in the work force.  Ask any parent who tries to extend conversation with their teenager beyond the dinner table, and heads will be bobbing like a buoy in a wake zone.

Enter stage right, a host of electronic products on everyone’s holiday shopping list, and the perfect storm is created that dampens the creative energy amongst a team like the Bose QC15 noise-cancellation head phones muffles the engine noise of a 777 for any lucky passenger who can afford them.  (Love mine BTW).  The silence generated is eerie. So much so that your staff may even be oblivious to the roar of a Walker from the Walking Dead shuffling down a cubicle farm.

It used to be that bulky headphones were reserved for the “hipster” engineer designing the next patentable product while sitting in a darkened cube staring at two computers screens and listening to sports talk radio or 1979 Led Zeppelin songs on their shiny new disc players.    The pillars of industry liked keeping these guys quiet and happy as they built them a library of intellectual property.  But now, everyone hooks on headphones or ear buds.

The outcome is that coworkers may be less likely to communicate with others sitting in the same space than those assigned to cubicles or separate offices.  As a manager, the direct report seems oblivious, becoming the focal point of frustration as they try to engage and get their attention. 

Can managers enforce a “no-headphone” policy?   Likely not, without creating some infringement of this newly established work zone.  Do we have to resort to encouraging communication by sending Outlook invites to plead with coworkers to speak together? Maybe we can create a collaboration goal around it, and reward people for simply talking to one another.

Headphones also inhibit the opportunity for casual networking before and after work.  I observed an executive who entered an elevator and asked an employee how they were.  When the employee realized that he had been addressed, he took one bud out and said “what?”.  The executive shook him off.  Both of them had checked out, and the opportunity for networking had passed.

My advice for anyone who may be reading this while listening to music through ear buds – recognize that someone may want to talk to you right now, but perceive you as closed off – to new ideas and a chance at new responsibilities.  Good communication skills are essential for an emerging manager, but it is difficult to practice them while listening to Spotify or Pandora.  Take them off and initiate a work buzz at your office.  See what happens.

Joyce Mihalik is the President & CEO of HlpSum1, Inc., a start-up company in Akron, Ohio that operates social media sites, with a mission to inspire people to help others and increase volunteering.  As part of programming, Joyce has started a blog site called Business World – Beyond the Classroom, with a goal of providing guidance for young career professionals. 

Common courtesy is the grease for teamwork


Whether you are a team manager or an individual contributor, there are certain norms that we have learned while growing up that still apply today.  I often loved the book and the expression that everything we need to know we learned in kindergarten.  Not quite – but some common rules apply.  One golden role – say Hello and Goodnight to any of your coworkers you see when you start your work day or end it.   This can take many forms: “Hey”, “how are you”, “did you watch that game yesterday”, “what a commute today”, “sunny day”, “how was the weekend” .  Some form of acknowledgement is required to improve collaboration and support teamwork and camaraderie.  Not only is it a common courtesy, but it tells your coworkers that I am interested in being a member of this team and that I respect you as a person (even if you don’t like their work), and that in turn, I expect the same consideration.  At the end of the day, an acknowledgement is also needed, for those you see along your pathway to the door, and even going a little out of your way to stop and recognize their presence again.  What if you are normally quiet, is this still required?  The answer is Yes!!,  especially in this case.  Coworkers of quiet people need reinforcement to gauge the attitude of their coworkers.   Is there a problem?  Is he or she unhappy with their work life?  Are we good?

On your way into the job today, stop and say “hey”,  you will likely be greeted in the same way, and have set a positive tone for the rest of the day.